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Should a divorced parent be able to veto home schooling by the custodial parent?

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Asked by AngiDas at 9:47 AM on Jan. 9, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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  • In an ideal situation it should be something that should be able to be discussed and a conclusion be made that both parents are comfortable with. In the real world I guess the answer would be more complicated. I think the other parent should have a say but I don't think that their opinion should veto the idea completely.

    Answer by But_Mommie at 9:50 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • If there is shared legal custody the parents have to agree. If not, I think it is supposed to be brought to court to have a judge decide. Generally, the custodial parent may have a bit more sway since they are the person involved in the day to day care of the child.

    Answer by BubbaLuva at 9:50 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • It depends on the court order in place. If the order in place says both parents have equal say so then they have the legal right to disagree. At that point they would have to go to mediation or court in order to get someone else to decide which parent is right. In the meantime the child would have to attend public or private school. If the non custodial is disagreeing simply to be a jerk, then document every conversation and check on your local laws for recording. Some states have a one party law which means only one party in the conversation has to know they are being recorded. If you can catch them on tape showing their butts it goes a long way in court to show a judge they arent really against home school but against any decision the custodial parent has. If they are really concerned then document still the benenits to home schooling.

    Answer by gemgem at 9:51 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • Yes. Unless one parent has complete authority over schooling (which is rarely written into a court order), then both parents have equal say. If you can't come to some sort of agreement, you will need to go in front of a judge or mediator and have them make a ruling.

    Answer by Scuba at 9:53 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • It depends on the agreement. If they share joint custody, they must agree on how the child should be schooled. If they cannot agree, a mediator will need to assist.

    If the custodial parent has sole custody, the other parent has no say. the judge has determined that in the best interest of the child, the couple cannot come to any resasonable agreement where the rearing of the child is concerned.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 9:59 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • If the non-custodial parent is involved and concerned first and foremost for the child he/she should have a say. Not a veto. If they can't agree then it needs to go to court.

    Answer by lilsweetpea708 at 10:00 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • If they have shared parenting-yes. If the custodial parent has sole custody, they get to make all decisions regarding care.

    Answer by MrsMWF at 10:09 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • I can tell you that my son's father and I have joint custody and we try first to come to an agreement on things like school. So far, so good.

    Answer by TARARENEE at 10:13 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • Ditto on what everyone else says, however, I think they should at the very least, give it a try before deciding so they have first hand experience.

    In a shared custody situations, both parents should have equal say, but how can you really know if you only go by what you've heard about a subject. Try it for a year, then re-evaluate.

    Answer by my2.5boys at 10:27 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • Nope

    Answer by itsmesteph11 at 11:18 AM on Jan. 9, 2011

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