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My 12 month old girl is getting to the point where she misbehaves (and knows better) how do I discipline such a young child?

I teach 3rd graders, but have NO idea how to manage behavior when the child can't really communicate their issue.

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Asked by Megs00835 at 11:24 PM on Jan. 9, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Redirection and consistency - and redirection and consistency - and .... you get it :)

    She is old enough to learn about time out, too - it just takes a while to gt the concept across.

    Good luck! :)

    Answer by AAAMama at 11:26 PM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • A 1 yr old does NOT know when they are misbehaving. I have worked with that age group for years. At that age, they are learning about their environment, about what they can do. She doesn't need to be punished. Redirect her, say NO in a firm voice. Distract her.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:26 PM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • 12 months old huh...hmmmm that's almost 1 year

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:29 PM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • You are mistaken. When you attribute human abilities, thoughts and feelings to inanimate objects or animals, it's called anthropomorphism. I don't know what it's called when adults attribute adult thoughts, knowledge or understanding to children, but it's just as far out of touch with reality.

    Your 1yo does not possess the parts of her brain, yet, to process things the way you think she can. She has not yet developed any sense that anything is happening anywhere in the world she isn't. She has absolutely no understanding of logic, or really of reality --while you know you've said something 2000 times, she doesn't. Partly because she doesn't understand counting or numbers, but mostly because she barely understands the language. She doesn't yet have the ability to remember in words yet... so you might think she 'should' know the rules... but a lot of people think dogs 'should' understand why doing some things are bad.

    Answer by LindaClement at 11:32 PM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • *sigh* just redirect her when she misbehaves. time outs are exceptable, and a pop on the bottom with the diaper on is too. kids' are NOT dumb. at age 1, they do know more than you think. it's amazing how people think kids don't know any better. at age 3 we have kids talking 2 different languages these days. if they can learn 2 different languages by 3yrs old, it makes you wonder what else they know. btw, i work with infants, ages 6wks- 16 months, and have a 2 and 3yr old myself. been working with kids since i was about 15.

    Answer by armywife43 at 11:44 PM on Jan. 9, 2011

  • well, since we are throwing out qualifications, i'm a development specialist. Punishment and discipline are two different things. yes, you should discipline your one year old. "start as you mean to go on", a saying i love. ex, if she throws her tippy, gently but firmly said no, then hand it back to her. if she throws it again, gently but firmly said no again, but set it on table or counter. usually a behavior takes at least a week to re-direct, so be patient. and you will revisit your "rules" often.
    AAAmama is right, re-direction and consistency are key.
    armywife is right, they know more than we give them credit for.
    lol, a one year does possess all parts of their brain, but their brain "wires" are connecting and forming their learning. They do have some logic, language, and understanding of their world. The more you communicate through words, gestures, and repetition, the faster she will learn and smarter she will be.

    Answer by boobarandbell at 12:26 AM on Jan. 10, 2011

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