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Which is a more realistic goal?

My BIL confided in us that he is having problems with his wife. He wants her to get at least a part time job now that the kids are in school full-time so they can wean themselves off the welfare system. She claims that her bible education comes first,and as soon as she feels she is a full fledged Catholic woman again,THEN she will start looking for a job.
She feels all her time while the kids are in school should be spend on her bible studies. He highly doubts that she is spending the time between 8am and 3pm studying the bible,and is slacking off in her housecleaning and other things that need to be done.
She won't budge in her decision.


Asked by butterflyblue19 at 11:58 AM on Jan. 10, 2011 in Religious Debate

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Answers (20)
  • Sounds like she is using her religion as a convenient excuse to not work.

    Answer by Scuba at 12:06 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Well, remind her that God expects us to be self reliant and care for our families- so if getting a job is what is needed for that family, she needs to do that first and foremost. Sounds like she is using bible study as an excuse- not a good thing ;)

    Answer by soyousay at 12:00 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • 2 Thessalonians 3:10 says, For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work , neither should he eat .

    She needs to get a job so they can get off of welfare.

    Answer by Bethsunshine at 12:16 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Tell him if it is that important to her that they should sit down and discuss this with her pastor. I bet she flips out.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:17 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Honestly it sounds like she is being lazy... and using the Bible as her excuse to do so...
    I would tell your BIL to tell her just that...
    Maybe you can talk to her... explain to her that she can study the Bible and hold down a
    pt job... maybe hearing it from another (like 3rd party) will help sway her...


    Answer by gmasboy at 12:03 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • She's either being lazy, or she's suffering from depression and using religion as an excuse. When I was depressed, I put off looking for a job and looked for other excuses to slack off on housework. Then I would sit on the computer all day and do nothing. Maybe he should talk to her, and try to get down to the real reason she's not wanting to get a job.

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 1:45 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • The husband has the head in a Biblical relationship. If she really wanted to do what the Bible said, she'd listen to him and get a job.

    Answer by lovinangels at 12:34 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • imo she needs to find a job, get off welfare, and study the bible during break times, weekends, and possibly with the family.

    Answer by JOR_HAIL at 12:00 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Maybe he can suggest some home based businesses for her that she can do while she is studying. There are lots of options...medical coding, telemarketing, skin care lines or Southern Living parties. Plenty of very religious women I know do both and they are actually making money.

    Answer by mykitchenchaos at 12:04 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • She should get a job...It is fine that she wants to feel more like a catholic woman but it dosnt take hours apon hours to feel more like a catholic woman.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:55 PM on Jan. 10, 2011