I have always been the sole earner of my family's finances (my daughter and myself). What I have given up by being a out-of-home-working mom is being in the battle front between ill-mannered management and stake-holders (with my name attached) and being the whipping child of many bad juju practices that blame has rolled downhill, while at the same time worried if my daughter is being cared for adequately. I remember going home crying many times wondering if I even had a job, just to be laid off because of budget cuts and misdirected blame. I remember picking up my daughter with a red puffy face, and then had to finish by getting house work done and fixing dinner with nerves rattles. So many times I wished that I could have just said that I was a Stay-At-Home-Mom instead of answering what my former boss would say about me during job hunt interviews (and for the sake of sanity). My life goal as a young girl was to have a large family and be the picturesque mom hugging her children, but not to be dodging critical interview questions in this tough competitive economy. Currently, I am working again in finance and am writing a journal about occupational and economical survival. But I still don't feel that I'm any better off than any other mom who's returning to the work world. I feel many times that I am actually in a worse state, actually.
Just seems to me that the article, Do Stay at Home Moms Give Up Too Much?, suggests that working-out-of-home moms have it better than SAHM moms.
Why does this assumption prevails so much in articles and in CafeMom?
I use facebook with my real name for networking. I don't need my personal life publicized on facebook.
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Answer by buzymamaof3 at 3:47 PM on Jan. 10, 2011
My kids are grown now, and I have always worked part time, and often off hours so DC needs were minimal. I would say that many SAHMs have been deluded in to thinking that they would be able to jump right back in the workforce when their kids were a bit older. Sadly, that is just not the case. We have moved around quite a bit for my husband's job and the first question I have always been asked is about my recent job experience and if I had had any employment lapses. I am a nurse and have been told that any lapse of greater than 1 year makes you an unattractive candidate; someone who would probably need retraining. Kids are little for a short period and then you're an unattractive candidate-not worth it, IMO. I loved working half time and it only benefited me, our kids and or family. Every family is different-
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