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how do i deal with my 12 yr old daughters bad attitude,what do i do?how do i talk to her to make her understand she can,t act like that.i,ve tride every thing.HELP!!!!! adult content

she tries to dress like a 18 yr old,talk like one and do whatever she wants too.when i say no and put my foot down,she yells and cries.its so agrivating and she,s tearing apart my family.

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cici447

Asked by cici447 at 2:36 PM on Jan. 10, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Wow!!! Girls r really different then boys. Here is how it goes boys start out wild and get better and stay that way. Girls start out sweet and get alot worse. They r really rebellious!! This is coming from moms that have daughters.
    dancer

    Answer by dancer at 2:40 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Anyone who tells me that their child is a problem and that they have "tried everything" and that it is the child "tearing the family apart"- I automatically don't believe. Is the only time she gets feed back when you put your foot down?

    You can't talk to a pre-teen like a child- but they aren't an adult yet. Its a tricky age and the best thing they respond to is friendship. Don't try to "be hip" and hang our with her and her friends, but you need to take interest in her life and find some level of liking to what she is interested in.

    On the other side of this she is an emotional, hormonal mess right now. Sit her down and tell her that if she wants to have more adult privileges then she has to start acting more grown up- and throwing fits when you tell her "no" is not the way grown ups act.
    meandrphoto

    Answer by meandrphoto at 2:43 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Be consistent with what you feel is appropriate and stick to it so she learns you will not be easily swayed. Be open to discuss things with her though. Continue/find things that you can always do together so you have a good relationship. Look at a few good books at the library on parenting teens. GL
    elizabr

    Answer by elizabr at 4:07 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Have you talked to her, and explained to her about all of the hormones bombarding her body?
    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 8:46 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Don't give up!!!! Or cave in to her- She is testing you! Stay FIRM!
    chefjen

    Answer by chefjen at 9:13 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • Who are her friends and who's she trying to impress? Usually when things begin to get out of control, you usually have a warning sign and somewhere down the line, the warning sign was ignored. The best thing you can do is find out her freinds and keep her on a short leash...its rough out here in the big old big old world and its better that you get a hold to it before it really gets out of control. Good luck...
    mom2mybabes

    Answer by mom2mybabes at 5:48 PM on Jan. 12, 2011

  • If she is dressing like she is 18 then let her be an adult for a few days. Dont give her money, dont make her food, dont do laundry........then when the s**t storm is over plan something special for the two of you to do.....
    Who knows maybe you can just switch roles and you can be a teen for a few days while shes a grown up.....i dunno
    Ihatelaundry

    Answer by Ihatelaundry at 9:27 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

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