My step daughter is 4 and she is starting preschool (just for a few months to acclimate her socially to the environment she can expect in kindergarten). Because a lot of research supports healthy interactions of all parental figures in a child's life, we have decided to invite her other family (her bio mom and step dad) out to dinner with us to celebrate. I am a huge part of my (s)daughter's life in all aspects (doctor's visits, education, monetarily, and time wise) I am more present than her biological mother. At any rate, I have no interest in competing with the position she holds in my daughter's life... but the prospect of this whole thing is making me anxious. How do I politely defend my own position in her life? If you are one of those people that thinks that step parents play the baby sitter role, I have no interest in hearing your opinion. I want to do what's best for my daughter and yet I don't want there to be a power struggle for the "alpha" mom. For my daughter's sake, for my sake, and for my other children's sake. How do I approach the situation with tact and respect and still stay firm? How would you prepare yourself to avoid conflict without ultimately submitting to bio mom?
Like I said, it's a long story but I have no desire to hear from people who simply believe I am not a real mom to her, or who believe I should submit to natural mom. It IS a complex situation and she IS my daughter whether or not half of her genetic material is mine. What I am looking for is conflict diffusion advice. Thank you!!!
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