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What are we supposed to gain from therapy?

My issue is marriage. Just want to make sure my expectations aren't too high.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:31 PM on Jan. 10, 2011 in Health

Answers (8)
  • common ground, the ability to listen to one another in an attempt to repair a relationship. It's not a guarantee but it is a great step.
    But_Mommie

    Answer by But_Mommie at 9:34 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • We were separated with divorce papers being processed and decided to give it one last shot. Therapy gave us an all new way to communicate, which turned out to be the base of all our problems. It completely saved our marriage and 6 years later we still use the techniques, and we couldn't be happier. Both of you have to be really open to therapy for it to help at all. A great step if you want it to work.
    AntoinetteF

    Answer by AntoinetteF at 9:48 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • I would think they would help you to both communicate your needs in a mature way, probably help you to see the others point of veiw and to come to a compromise on certain issues. I guess they would focus on whatever your most serious problems are.

    skittles1108

    Answer by skittles1108 at 9:48 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • I would say understanding, patience, and how to keep the flow of communication going can be gained from therapy. The fact that you want to help strengthen and heal your marriage says alot. Best of luck to you.
    virgo550

    Answer by virgo550 at 10:06 PM on Jan. 10, 2011

  • It helps to have a mediator... if you have an impartial third party simply listening to the conversation and gently guiding it, it makes it easier to convey what you really want heard, as opposed to just trying to take jabs or fighting
    prinzesstephi

    Answer by prinzesstephi at 2:55 PM on Jan. 12, 2011

  • I would like to go to marriage counseling but it cost to much :(
    buella

    Answer by buella at 10:28 PM on Jan. 12, 2011

  • A new way to look at things...It did an amazing thing for us, BUT it will not work if you're not willing to work at it (both of you). There's a lot more to counseling then someone talking to you in hopes that one or the other is right and just trying to get the other to agree. It's kind of like a..."Meet Me Halfway" deal.
    Dayija

    Answer by Dayija at 6:44 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • Therapy helps you to understand your perks as well as your significant others perks.
    It teaches you how to deal with situations thrown into your head by others - and you start to believe their right, even though in your heart you know they are wrong. Therapy gives you the tools to help you stay focus sane and avoid pushing each other buttons the wrong way but also to how to push button in a good way.
    jojana807

    Answer by jojana807 at 2:56 AM on Jan. 14, 2011

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