I really hope that no one takes this post as an anti abortion post because it is not!!
I was 17 when I became pregnant and kept my baby. My sister was 15 and didn't. Sometimes I feel a strong resentment because my family will praise her and say things like:
"You didn't have kids and look at you! You have the freedom to design your life!" "Be selfish, now is the time! You're living the life!"
The truth is that I love my sister but she's 19 and finally finished high school through a home school because she kept messing up during school from partying too much. I'm proud of her for finally finishing HS but she lives off our mother, my mother babies her, she "couch surfs" so she can party and go out, and people like my aunt spoil her with money, clothes, tickets. She doesn't work and when she needs something, she has this sense of entitlement and asks even ME for help or things like shoes and make-up. All I ever hear from my family when I am struggling raising my child is that I messed up. BUT SHE DID TO! She is not less of an F up than me. We BOTH got pregnant at young ages and before we were "ready" and having an abortion doesn't change that. Having an abortion doesn't change how irresponsible she is but it's like she CAN be because she doesn't have kids and didn't....end up like me.
I still get treated like every financial crisis and every bad thing that happens to me is because I got pregnant as a teen. It makes me feel more alone than ever. It's making me resent my sister because now the picture is turning into something ugly. I don't want to feel this way.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:22 AM on Jan. 11, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by TARARENEE at 11:24 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by Jambo4 at 11:25 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by L0vingMy3Girls at 11:27 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by Mamma2E at 11:28 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:28 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 11:28 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by misses_nick at 11:28 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by tnm786 at 11:28 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 11:29 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Answer by Mamma2E at 11:30 AM on Jan. 11, 2011
Next question overall
how can i get my daughter to stop sucking her finger
Check out some of the top posts today in Groups: