we've recently discovered my husband having an anger problem. it's something that's been affecting his behavior for over a month and the other night i text mil to try and talk to him, since every route i was going was not working. she called him, got him to come over and got the truth out of him. he came home about an hour later, apologized to me, admitted his problem, and said he wants to get help.
the next morning, i text mil. saying "thanks. your talk helped, he was able to talk with me when he got home, wish he could've done that in the first place but sometimes you need your mom i guess! :)"
and she replied "it's more of a guy thing than a mom thing"
and i said "well hopefully with some treatment we will get our fun loving Chris back"
and she said "Guys and some girls don't know how to talk. you all need to learn to communicate as a couple."
i thought to myself, OUCH. i don't know how to talk? i have only been offering my support and my ear and the man simply did not want to talk to me about it. it's true, we do have a communication issue that we need to fix. but just the way she said it burned a little, like it was my fault he was keeping his emotions inside and needed the "right" person to talk to to get it out. i agree with the last part, but not the first. her words made my efforts feel inadequate. am i overreacting a bit here, reading too much into it? i suppose you might have to have been in my shoes for the last month to fully understand. im the one living with him, walking on egg shells and keeping the kids happy so nothing will set him off. i just felt a little offended by what she said and wondering if that feeling was justified?
Answer by Jademom07 at 5:05 PM on Jan. 11, 2011
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Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 5:08 PM on Jan. 11, 2011
I would be more pissed at my DH then my MIL about this. If he would have just talked to you about his problems, she would never gotten involved. It is his fault not yours.
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