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How long is too long to have your child/children still living at home?

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Asked by WalknWithGod at 8:10 PM on Jan. 11, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • For me there is no age limit, my home will always be theirs when and if they need it. Parenting does not ever stop at any age.

    Answer by older at 8:12 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • After mine graduated, they were given two choices. 1) You can live at home, if you are attending college full time, or 2) You can get a full-time job and get your own place to live. So, I guess that would depend on what they chose to do. Mine both left college to get full time jobs after their second year. They couldn't handle having no money! LOL!!

    Answer by m-avi at 8:13 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • exactly what older said. Ive been a single parent for a long time to these two kids. I told them already that Im not going anywhere, other then work and they are welcome to live with me as long as they want. I do expect them to go to college, which dd is doing next year. or get a job of some sort. Now excuse me, dd just made dinner and its I am one lucky mom

    Answer by beyondhopes at 8:15 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • If they choose to go to college local they can live at home as long as they have a part time job. If they choose to NOT go to college, they are welcome to live with us if they pay rent and have a job. If that's what they choose then they need to be moved out by their 21st birthday. No exceptions. They will NOT live off of us after they're an adult. Yes we will be here for them, but not financially. It may seem harsh to some but I was taught to stand on my own feet, as was my Hubby. We refuse to raise entitled children.

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 8:16 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • I don't think there is any specific age. I always thought college was so important for all three of my kids so they didn't move out until they had a 4 year degree and a career . My oldest daughter lived with me for a few years after graduation and saved money for a house of her own.. They have always been welcome to stay with me if needed. But they are all married and have their own homes now.

    Answer by kerp1960 at 8:17 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • Depends on the purpose of their living at home. If they are just living off of me, then they are too old. If they are living with me to get ahead and are actually working toward that goal, then they are welcome.

    Answer by matthewscandi at 8:21 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • Never, but they would have to be paying rent once they had a job.

    Answer by elizabr at 8:26 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • There is no age limit to living at home, but there should be a huge shift in responsibilities when adult children are living at home. They should have to have a job, help with expenses, pay their own cell phone, insurance, car, etc.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 9:07 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • My home will always be open to my children.

    Answer by scout_mom at 9:21 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

  • I dont have an age limit my parents home was always open to us, mine will always be open to mind...In some cultures generations live together....I personally love my house more when my family is running through it..

    Answer by sam223 at 9:40 PM on Jan. 11, 2011

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