So I am as insecure as the next woman... maybe even more so. I've got some weight to loose but I am on track for my goals. The thing is, as a woman, I hang too much on what my partner says. I seek all sorts of validation for my needs to feel attractive, sexy, valuable, and loved. I know it's all on me to be confident but it's so much easier said than done. Some times (like this morning for ex.) I will make a comment about myself, today it was "gee my butt is getting saggy (LOL) and he AGREED(/AGREES) WITH ME!!! Who does that? He says "Neither of us are looking great lately" (I'm thinking OUCH, WTF??? I wouldn't go THAT far) "Yeah, well we've both gained a lot of weight since we got married". Let me just say that I do nothing but compliment his looks. I always tell him I think he's sexy and handsome and whatever else, because it's true. He HAS gained a lot of weight since we got married, but so what? He's my man, I want him and I appreciate him.
I know he's just a man and I know a lot of them do this... He's a really great husband but stuff like that cuts like a knife. WHY ON EARTH DO THEY DO THIS???
Answer by MeandMyBabes at 12:48 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
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Answer by Scuba at 8:48 AM on Jan. 12, 2011
I learned a long time ago that my husband is honest to a fault - I don't ask him things I know the answer to. Being honest is not a bad thing, and in the long run, you want a man who is truthful with you, not one who sugar coats things.
Answer by scout_mom at 9:24 AM on Jan. 12, 2011
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