Lately things seem to have been going a muck in my life. I lost a grandmother, like most I am broke, I am tired, and I have come to some realizations about family members as of late. I see how my mom is a very selfish person, I see how complacent and unemotional my father is, I see that a lot relatives had their own agendas on a lot of things and I basically feel that if I were to pack up and move across the country my family would not even notice or care and would not help me if I needed it. It floors me in comparison to how I know their parents helped them, and my inlaws are an entire other beast. The annoy the crap outta me. Well I have found that in my funk of realizations as of late that I am tuning out my kids more and more and almost distancing myself at times. Has anyone else found themselves doing this or why do you think I might be doing this?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:51 PM on Nov. 12, 2008 in General Parenting
It sounds like you are in a dark place right now. You need to re-think your life. Your relationship with your family especially. Make changes that will be healthier for you. Take a breather, once you have figured things in your head, you can get back in touch with your kids. Time keeps on marching so let your relationship with them evolve too, they're older, find new ways of spending time and connecting with them. Hang on, this too shall pass!!!
Answer by shmorris56 at 8:00 PM on Nov. 12, 2008
Answer by MikkiB at 3:58 PM on Nov. 12, 2008
Yes, I've done it. I've even yelled at my kids to go somewhere and leave me alone. Do or did I mean to do this, NO. Have I gotten frustrated and it just came out, YES. Do i feel bad, YES. But it's true that we as moms need down time for us to refocus and "get it together". Because if we're not together, how can we expect ourselves to be better able to deal with our children or expect them to be together.
Answer by LovingParent08 at 4:18 PM on Nov. 12, 2008
Answer by Fawn80 at 4:41 PM on Nov. 12, 2008
Answer by frogdawg at 12:14 AM on Nov. 13, 2008