My mother in-law is constantly treats me like garbage. For instance, she came to visit and brought her own soda. I put as much as i could fit into the fridge and the rest under the cabinet. I found out 5 months later that she was telling everyone that I was "hiding" her Diet Coke so I could keep it!!! When she found out I was pregnant, she told be point blank that she wasn't happy about it (Because her daughter miscarried 5 months earlier) And it should be her daughter who is pregnant and not me. The list goes on and on.
So here is my problem. I'm done. I'm not mean to her, but I no longer consider her a friend or anything similar. My husband is really upset about this and insists that I should forgive her because "That's the way she is."
He is telling me to put up with her, no matter what she does or says because that is the type of person she is.
This has been going on for 5 years. I forgive, and forgive and forgive. I don't have anything left!! Needless to say it has caused us a lot of stress. I am 5 months pregnant and I can't stop crying. What should I do? Should I fake forgiveness to keep my marriage sound, or should I stand my ground and refuse to be treated like crap?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:20 PM on Jan. 12, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by amybaby_19 at 9:23 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
Answer by Jademom07 at 9:23 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
Answer by dancinintherain at 9:27 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
Answer by mrs.coop at 9:28 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
You have to decide what it is worth to you to take this stand. Is it worth it if it alienates your husband? Is HE alienating you by not standing up for you? Can you live with the family drama that always comes from these type of things? I'm not talking about forgiveness here..only tolerance. The way I see it is you have about 2 choices. Refuse to be anywhere she is or continue to participate in family events. Your child will have to live with what you choose. I know it doesn't seem fair. You certainly don't need the stress while pregnant..but that's sort of the way it is. I wish you luck and peace. Remember...you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:28 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 9:30 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 9:30 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
When she says I didn't mean it like that--- that is bull shit. My MIL used to do that crap. She would say something crazy to me, and when DH said something to her, she pretended not to know what he was talking about. I told DH to stand up to her or I would never talk to her again. Also, I started calling her out on the bullshit she did. Embarrassing her a few times made her pick her battles with me a bit more.
Answer by dancinintherain at 9:30 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
Answer by mrs.coop at 9:31 PM on Jan. 12, 2011
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