I have a 10 yo daughter who is bright enough to be at the top of her 5th grade class, but I have a very hard time getting her to bring her dirty clothes to the laundry room once a week. This has been going on for about a year. My husband and I have sat her down and talked to her multiple times. She just "politely" ignores us when we remind her throughout the week to bring them. She is not combative or ugly to us whatsoever. Once I let them sit in her basket to see how long she would leave them there and it took her 3 weeks to bring them (after I finally broke down and remind her). And guess what....I was the one who had to wash 3 weeks’ worth of clothes. I obviously have issues with needing approval because I hate to feel like I am punishing them. Right now she is in her room asleep (school closed due to snow) because once again she failed to bring them after being prompted many times throughout the week. I simply told her she could not go outside to play with friends etc. I did not remove TV, iPod or things like that. I feel terrible and confused. I just want her to learn and get the point. Does anyone have a suggestion and or have you ever researched why mothers feel SO guilty for disciplining even when it is necessary? I want to always fix everything for them so they don't have to suffer. I know it is best to teach them but I can't seem to stop the guilty cycles that tie me up in knots.
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