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DH and I are getting very angry! DD is going to preschool 4 hrs away from us two days a week while she is with her BM. From the first week of school until Dec. 10th we had weekly contact with her teacher via e-mail and USP mail. Since Dec. 10th she has not responded to any of our e-mails (4 weeks of school *not including the holiday break*) DD's BM has told doctors and therapists that they are not to communicate with DH and if he has any questions he is supposed to ask BM and BM will give him any information he needs. This is NOT correct though...they share joint custody thus giving him the access to communicate directly with anybody he chooses in re: DD. We are at our wits end and would march right over there if it wasn't 4 hrs away...any suggestions?! We want to know how things are going and we want to hear if FROM her teacher.

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Asked by NessGuinness at 4:18 PM on Jan. 13, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • If it's in the court order, he can show it to them. They have to comply.

    Answer by Christine0813 at 4:19 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • Unless its spelled out in the court order there isnt much you can do until she starts kindergarten. Once in kinder then you have the right to report cards, files, to go to parent teacher conferences etc. You can do this under FERPA

    I am not sure how it would or if it would apply for preschool though since if it is not federally funded they may not have to comply (think head start vs private preschool).
    If it is not covered all you can do is meet with a lawyer and see about getting an addition added to the court order in place and have it spelled out that BM or the preschool has to send you quarterly reports.

    Answer by gemgem at 4:24 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • A preschool 4 hours away would make me really nervous, not the teacher. My 4 year old's preschool is only 15 minutes away.

    Answer by ambr2006 at 11:50 AM on Jan. 14, 2011

  • Try calling the preschool director.

    Answer by CometGirl at 4:21 PM on Jan. 15, 2011

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