Scenario: I just got home from work maybe 20 minutes before and was sitting at my desk in the living room looking over the mail that I got today and specifically my children's health insurance information when my SO walks in the room and says out loud "Well I guess I need to multitask" and then walks out of the room. This was a couple minutes after asking what I wanted for dinner that he planned to cook. He was doing the dishes and he was trying to get ready for basketball practice of which we both signed up to coach. So I took it as him complaining that he had to do these things and got up to do it myself. He had only gotten half the dishwasher loaded and was working on something else...neither of which included dinner, which at this point is most important. I'm not saying I have a problem doing any of this, he just told me he was going to cook dinner and it was already after 5pm and practice is at 6:30pm. Needless to say this erupted into a huge argument and resulted in him walking out with out dinner or me to go to practice. So I want to ask, with the situation at hand, how would you have taken his comment and what would you have done?
I would have figured he was frustrated and had a bad day at work. i would have put down the mail and asked what he needed help with. then when he was calm I would ask about work.... and then mention in a kind and loving way that next time he is stressed he is more than welcome to ASK for help rather than getting snarky with me.
I have learned that with husbands and teenagers trying to match the tone only escalates things and does not solve problems.
Answer by sahlady at 7:34 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Maybe you need to ask him what he meant??
Answer by Crafty26 at 7:37 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by MrsMWF at 7:37 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by tinamarie1972 at 8:14 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 9:15 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by spottedpony at 10:08 PM on Jan. 13, 2011