I can't stand my son's step mom!!! She has only been married to my ex for 6 months and before they got married, she only met in twice, he wasn't even invited to the wedding cause she didn't want chilren there. My son is with his dad 1 day a month ( he picks him up after work on friday at around 7 PM and drops him off on Sat at about 4 pm (they don't want him sat night because they want to go out) so it's a total of 21 hours a month and he is 5 so about half that time he is sleeping. Well my son came home telling me that Jen, his sm, told him that he needs to call her mom because she is just as much of a mom as me!!! She told him that God gave him to me but decided that I needed help being a mommy so He gave him Jen!!!! What??? Now, I tell him that she is an adult so he should call her Miss Jen out of respect and not call her just Jen (well she's kinda an adult, she's 19 and apparently still puts stuffed animals on her bed, yes the bed she shares with her husband, but of course, I don't say this part to my son lol) Then I saw on her facebook, she has a folder of pics with my son labled," my little boy". In it, she has a quote that says something like "you didn't grow inside my belly, you grew in my heart". UMMMM NO, he grew in my belly and when he was growing in my belly, you were in Jr. High, I have heard people use that quote about adopted kids but about step kids, that's kinda weird IMO. It has gotten to the point that my son doesn't want to go to his dad's house because of the sm. I have talked to his dad about it and he said that it is just because it is hard for her that he has a child with someone else. I said, "didn't she know about him before you got married?" I even called and talk to her about it and she said it is none of my concern what goes on in her house. I told her that my son didn't want to go to his dad's house (which he used to love doing) because of the way she acts. She also says things in front of my son like "it would be nice to take a long vacation this year but we can't afford it because we have to pay child support for someone." My son told me this more then once and I believe it cause where else is a 5 year old gonna get that? My ex is an RN, I get child support based on what he makes, not what they make (not that it would change what I get very much, she works part time at a clothing store in the mall) together so HE is paying child support, not both of them. I am trying not to say nasty things about her in front of my son (no matter how true the things may be) but this is so hard. My husband of 2 years is thinking about talking to my ex as well but we don't know what good it will do as he didn't even listen to me. I just don't know what to do anymore, she is driving me crazy.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 7:55 PM on Jan. 13, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by mistynights234 at 8:02 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by JazzyJes at 8:03 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
I'm not sure that is a hard situation to be in especially because ur son is old enough to start understanding these things I honestly think maybe sitting down with ur hubby and ex together talking then having ur son come in and also express how he feels in the situation and how she and his father make him feel.... I am not to sure but please keep me informed hope lil girl grows up soon and realizes what she says doesn't just effect her it effects those around her!
Answer by lovemynutterbut at 8:03 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by JOR_HAIL at 8:07 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Oh Momma laugh at her she is but a mere child and I would tell her you are Jen because when you were in junior high I was married to him and another thing tell your ex she needs to watch what she says in front of your son. She sounds silly on so many levels keep doing what your doing and think when she makes the vacation remark didn't you just have it last year when you were in school? Let her go someone like her has no idea.
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 8:09 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by SweetPoison at 8:10 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by angevil53 at 8:13 PM on Jan. 13, 2011
Answer by SweetPoison at 8:16 PM on Jan. 13, 2011