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needing some advice on a touchy issue. adult content

Just now I received an e-mail from my school stating that there is a man (description of him in e-mail), that has been going around campus mostly in the back areas of the parking lot, trying to solicit women, trying to get them to go into his vehicle forcibly etc...and he has not been identified. I have school tomorrow, an exam and a class that does not accept absences. Now here is my issue...almost 2 years ago, I was raped. I have horrific fears revolving around this. I still cannot go down the street it happened, i have not been into the store that I met them in front of since the attack. they were not charged, and still live in my city. I am afraid to go to school tomorrow. What if its him? But I feel that I have to. Maybe I am just being a whimp, I feel like I need to get over what happened to me...but things like whats going on at my school have me completely in fear, and it is as if this just happened yesterday. I guess this isnt really a question, more of a " i need someone to pep talk me" or "what would you do?" Thank you.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:26 PM on Jan. 13, 2011 in Health

Answers (16)
  • I think you should get some mase or a tazer and travel in a group never alone
    nolanandgavin29

    Answer by nolanandgavin29 at 9:29 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • You poor dear, bless your heart.
    Do you know anyone from your class that you can perhaps have walk you to and from your car? Better yet, ride together for the exam?
    SpaceToast

    Answer by SpaceToast at 9:30 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • Can you call ahead and have campus security meet you & escort you from your vehicle to your building?
    mom2aspclboy

    Answer by mom2aspclboy at 9:31 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • I agree with the others...they have campus security for a reason. Use it. Partner up with a group of people going to and from class. NEVER EVER be alone.

    (((HUGS))) to you and having to deal with what you experienced. I am sorry that nothing was done to the man who violated u

    Best of luck
    swtlilwamom

    Answer by swtlilwamom at 9:35 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • I would keep a man by my side. A friend or a neighbor or your dad. Seriously I was afraid of going to a school just because it was in Detroit, your fear is absolutely valid. Have campus police on your speed dial, keep your keys in your hand so you have a way to defend yourself(let one key poke out through your fingers while making a fist. If I don't feel safe that is what I do.
    mrs.coop

    Answer by mrs.coop at 9:35 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • It there a way to make it to your class without going into the back areas, or a frient you can meet with to walk to class together. Are your classes at night or day? Got any pepper spray? Sorry all that had to happen to you, stay strong!
    NicholeAT

    Answer by NicholeAT at 9:36 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • You should go to your exam .....I am not going to tell you to get over it because that is something that will be in the back of your mind always but you have to live in the NOW because that is the only thing you can control . What you can do is use that knowledge to your advantage and not give that "fear" power over your life or any part of it . So you are more cautious, you go to school with a friend or two, park in a different location, be aware of your surroundings and know that you are safe. You are a strong willed and determined woman. If you weren't would you be asking this question now? Would you have continued on the path to your dream? I think not. So I say you have the POWER to do anything you put your mind too, You go girl, stand tall and be happy. Go in there and ACE that exam and be proud.
    marthajean42

    Answer by marthajean42 at 10:00 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • I am so sorry for what you have been through. Most of the campuses i have attended offered an escort service by the campus police. They will walk you to and from class. Call the campus PD and ask about it. Im sure they would be more than willing to walk you, especially with the predator on campus.
    Or maybe a study partner or good friend to walk you? I wouldn't be walking alone either. Be safe.
    Mme.Langley

    Answer by Mme.Langley at 10:12 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • Is your class at night or during the day? Do you have to go in the back parking lot? I would stay where there are a lot of people and where it is well lit. I agree with having some mase on your keychain. Try to have someone with you at all times while on campus. Since this is going on, I am sure campus security is watching too. Stay aware of your surroundings. If you are scared, start screaming for help.
    Snewo

    Answer by Snewo at 10:13 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

  • have you seen a rape consuler . yes you should go to class get a friend family member to go with you . at school have a security guard to walk you to your car. good luck
    stressedoutgran

    Answer by stressedoutgran at 11:48 PM on Jan. 13, 2011

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