This is an update on a situation I posted about a few days ago, if you didn't read it, this was the post:
Ok, so about a year ago and a half ago, my sister started dating a man who was sparated from him wife and was in the process of getting a divorce. Well they dated for almost a year and got engaged. He was still not divorced but the papers were in, currently, it is taking almost 2 years to get through a divorce cause the courts are so backed up. Anyway, shortly after getting engaged, she got pregnant. By the time she was 3 months pregnant, her fiance' had left her and went back to his wife. They dropped the papers and are now living together with their 2 children. Now, my sister understands that he and his wife will be part of the child's life. She doesn't like it because the woman calls her a whore but they were planning on gettin married once his divorce was final. The problem is, she is weeks away from her due date and he called saying that both he AND HIS WIFE want to be in the delivery room!!!!!!!! In the hospital she is going to, you only get 2 people in the room so that would mean that for them to watch, she would not even have 1 support person. She told him it was out of the question, saying it is a total invasion of her privacy. She plans on me and our mother being there. I feel like since he left her, he doesn't have the right to be a support person in the delivery room. Also, they are angry because like I said the family court in our area is so backed up so they will have to wait until there is a birth certificate and social securety numer issued to the baby until they can file (prob when the baby is 3 months). Even then, it will take 6 months to a year to see a judge. So the baby could be as old as 15 months by the time he get visitation HOWEVER, once she is out of the hospital she can go to child support enforcement and she will get child support ordered within 60 days. I'll admit that this is unfair to him but on the other hand there has been so much unfairness for her it does kinda even things out. She says that she will let him visit the baby in her home until visitation is ordered. I told her I feel that she has every right to chose who will be in the room. I also think that she is in her right to get child support for her child, it's not her fault that the courts are so backed up that it will take a while for visitation. I also told her that I feel it is good that she is letting him see the baby in her home only because if she lets him take the baby and he doesn't bring the baby back, there is nothing my sister can do, she will have to wait to go to court to get the baby back. Opinions please, but please, on bashing, she wasn't trying to be the other woman, he was getting divorced and he betrayed her.
Oh the other thing is, the wife is mad because in our state, other kids that you are not paying child support on don't count when figuring child support so the child support she will get is a little over 1/7th of their current income (the wife doesn't work
My sister had the baby 2 days ago. Both she and the baby are doing well, I am excited, the baby looks just like my sister when she was a baby. Anyway, she put her last name on the birth certificate, and in our state, even when the father files for rights of the child, he can not make her change it to his last name. While in the hosptial, she filled out the paperwork to file for child support, I filed it for her today and child support enforcement says that they will have him served within the week and that child suppor will be set up within 25 days of that. We decided that the best was to insure there was no problem in the delivery room was not to call when she went into labor. She called him the next day and told him that he could come she the baby but his wife was not welcome. His wife came anyway and refused to leave so she called security and the wife was taken out in handcuffs (yes, I was able to descretely snap a pic lol). Anyway, she told him he could come see the baby at her home, just call first but again, the wife couldn't come. Well today, he was served the paper work and his wife is PISSED, aparently, she thought that child support would not start until visitation WRONG!!! She called and yelled at my sister saying that she is stealling money from her family and she should be ashamed, my sister told her to shut up and hung up. Anyway, my sister is now looking into getting a restraining order against the ex wife for her and the baby cause the ex wife has threatened to take the baby and she'll never see her again. If she gets it, either the father won't be able to take the child to his house EVER or the wife will have to leave the home while he visits with the child and his other chilren.
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