how do you not defend yourself and engage them? My ex-husband is an impossible person. He doesn't see the world or situations the way "normal" people would. I left because of his emotional and verbal abuse. I have learned to deal with it, for the most part, and realize it's not me, it's him. His words are not true, etc.
Well, for 2 weeks now, I've been dealing with his ranting texts and emails. If I don't engage him in one argument, he'll make up another one. It's regarding our children, and their school, and he's been rude and nasty, and it hasn't bothered me. Until today. For some reason, his one line email today telling me to quit being stupid really bothered me. I really feel the need to defend myself and stand up for myself, but logically, I know it's pointless. He just wants to argue and he just wants to make himself feel validated and like a better person. I know this, so why am I so bothered by his nasty comments?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:52 PM on Jan. 14, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 1:54 PM on Jan. 14, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 1:57 PM on Jan. 14, 2011
Answer by meandrphoto at 1:57 PM on Jan. 14, 2011
I'm sorry but what an a$$! good for you for leaving him and that's probably why he continues trying to get under your skin. some people just love the drama and get a kick out of making others feel less important. i think you shouldn't waste your time or energy on this creep. i know you have to deal with him cause you have kids together but you left him for a reason and don't let him continue making you feel this way. especially cause you aren't with him anymore. maybe you should have a guy friend take care of him for you lol jk. keep your head up chica! maybe not engaging will show him you just don't care what he has to say anymore and hopefully he will stop.
Answer by Christieluv0614 at 2:00 PM on Jan. 14, 2011
Answer by Rachel24517 at 2:39 PM on Jan. 14, 2011