I have a 12 yr. old son (the sweetest boy in the world) who as of late has been quite defiant and mouthy with me. I started off very positive with him, then dwindled down to raising my voice and threatening with taking away "everything". Well, that "everything" has finally come to pass and I have nothing else under my belt to take away! I quit my full time job so that I can dedicate my full attention to both my children.
What I don't understand is that he doesn't hang out with bad kids! My husband and I made sure that our son is kept busy at all time...home work, school band, honor band, syphonic band, and baseball. On weekends he has baseball games, sleep overs or some type of family outing. Enough to keep his entire week full. He is on concerta, and has bee on this medication for a little over 6 months now and vitamins as well. Concerta works fine but only lasts for 8 hours.
I am in tears practically every night before I go to sleep because it hurts me to have to yell at him. Sometimes I have to give him a silent treatment, to get my point accross when yelling is not working. I have tried the reward system, lasted for about 3 months. Then I started getting stern with him....lasted for about 4 weeks. Now we are down to just plain yelling! My husband left for deployment and left us here in Hawaii, which feels like a foreign country for us...but we make do of our surroundings. I'm am running dry of ideas here. Any suggestions?!
Answer by 1911 at 11:14 AM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by terpmama at 11:17 AM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by terpmama at 11:22 AM on Jan. 15, 2011
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