I feel just awful that I'm not excited about being pregnant for the second time. When I saw that my test was positive I burst into tears! I have a 2 year-old daughter who is the total joy of my life and I was hoping to not get pregnant again. I had actually just called in a Rx for birth control the day before I found out! I have a boyfriend whom I've been with for 5 years but things tend to be rocky. My mom hinted toward abortion but won't come out and say it... my boyfriend is not working currently and for some reason didn't want me to tell anyone that I was pregnant, not even my mom! We decided to tell both our mom's and one of my friends because she came over for New Year's (and I couldn't drink so... I kinda HAD to tell her). I'm just not able to be excited, happy or anything positive about this pregnancy! I don't even have anyone that I can talk to about it because how does that sound? "Yea, so I'm pregnant... not so "woo hoo" happy about it but.. whatever... " I guess that's why I came here... Any suggestions on how to handle this or if I'm just some weirdo/freak who lacks that whole nurturing mother feeling that I'm supposed to have?
Answer by zperez0809 at 12:13 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
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Answer by leksismommy at 12:14 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
No, you are not a weirdo. You are just in a bad and dying relationship where you want to leave. But you didn't have enough courage to do. So now when you would have to stay there (because you are pregnant and you don't want to raise this kid alone). So you are upset because you feel yourself in a cage. It would be had to break up with your boyfriend even with your one child. But now the lock closed with this new pregnancy. At least you feel like this. If you can separate your feeling for your second child's sake and don't mix up the frustration because of your relationship and the joy of a new baby than you would be fine. It would be nice to do it ASAP if you are not really into abortion or adoption... Because this child in your tummy need all of your joy and support during your pregnancy:) If you feel you can save your relationship than go to a counsellor. If not leave him ASAP for your children and your sake. Hugs:)
Answer by adriennfaklya at 12:14 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
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