i know to most it isnt a big deal, well it is to me and he knows that. hes been looking at pon, from the whole time i was pregnant with my last baby, shes 1. until now, i just caught him. one of the main probs is his lies, he wil promise and sware on everything he hasnt done anything like that at all, untili get proof myself then he fesses up. it hurts cause i thought we were good, yet hes turning to porn? i try to please him, we both gained alot of wight since highschool, but im still 100% attracted to him, hes my hubby, my everything. i feel so stupid for beleiveing him. oh andget this he admitted to be he actually got a hard on watching these women screw sex machines and dildos, his response is " i dnt wnna see men!" then tries to claim he dnt like the girls, only me. yea right. he said he loves the sounds. wtf.i know it could be alot worse, but its hurting me bad, i need help moving past this. you just have to know myhusband to understand, you wouldnt expect this from him. ooooh and get this, i offered to watch porn with him on many occasions,just so he wouldnt go behind my back, but he does anyway? anyone understand my hurt? please help me try to get over this, i love this man with all my heart!!!! =(Answer Question
Sorry mama. He needs to be respectful of you & if he knew that you were not ok with it & didn't want something like this in your marriage"which I'm sure he was very aware of" he should of cared enough about your feelings to not do this to you. Im sure other women are going to tell you not to worry about it & men will be men so get over it but that is just wrong of them. This is your marriage & not theirs.
Answer by iluvmykidsxoxo at 1:58 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by MommyH2 at 1:58 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by pixie_trix at 2:01 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by laura970 at 2:01 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by ambr2006 at 2:03 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Also i wanted to add that it sounds like you are settling by saying that you offered to watch it with him, but it doesn't sound like you really want to but are doing it just for him. Please don't settle or put up with. You need to have a long discussion with him & let him know how much it hurts & bothers you.
Answer by iluvmykidsxoxo at 2:03 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by gramama1 at 2:04 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by pixie_trix at 2:05 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
I'm so sorry hun & i hope eventually you can get over this. I understand completely i would be very mad too. He needs to respect your feelings, and realize how bad it hurts you. What I don't get is why he wouldn't want to watch it with you, but he wants to do it behind your back. People get addicted to porn .. do you think that's a possibility? Because that's kinda what it sounds like to me. Or like MommyH2 said maybe he does have some weird fantasy and is to embarrassed to admit it.
Answer by mommy2be0611 at 2:05 PM on Jan. 15, 2011
Answer by gou18 at 2:15 PM on Jan. 15, 2011