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sleep deprived cause he wont sleep

we have tried everything from the ferber method, to making his bed softer giving him a paci he is 8.5 months and still not sleeping thru the night..... HELP

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Asked by 2ndiapers at 7:40 PM on Jan. 15, 2011 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • It can take a long time. The child I take care of just started and he is 15 months old. We always found it worked best for us to get into a sleep time routine that was always the same. Bath, diaper change, swaddling, lights out, drapes pulled, soft music on or singing, cuddling/rocking/swaying. When the baby got drowsy he was laid down. If done in the same manner, all the time, the baby picks up on the cues and knows it's time for sleeping. The lady I do childcare for has also asked me to follow a set routine with her baby. If the baby cries at all it isn't for long. And I don't mean screaming his lungs out, but minor fussing. This is what worked for us. Our kids were good sleepers and happy babies.  GL!!


    Answer by elizabr at 7:47 PM on Jan. 15, 2011

  • Well even with the ferber method you have to put up with a little crying. Try going in and reassure him your there, next time wait a little longer and a little longer each time. But you have to just pat them a little and reassure them your there and leave, crying will not hurt him. It will take some patiece on your part and a little crying on his maybe but hopefully that will help. It's better than being up all night, and then hopefully he will sleep all night.

    Answer by MyAngel003 at 7:49 PM on Jan. 15, 2011

  • just continue with an even paced and easy routine every single day.
    also check if the formula or food you're giving your baby isn't making him or her upset....

    Answer by john2007 at 8:05 PM on Jan. 15, 2011

  • Sleep is a developmental stage reached in each child's own time. It seems as though most children under a year are not sleeping through the night so don't feel as though you are the odd man out. As you have seen no amount of pushing will help and will ultimately set you back. Hang in there and sleep when baby sleeps. Let things wait that are not imperative to life moving forward and go to bed as soon as you put your child down. Also don't forget that now is also prime teething time and even sleep trainers say no sleep training during that period of time. Good Luck and don't worry sleep is only a few more months away. It is coming!


    Answer by mama_l at 8:41 PM on Jan. 15, 2011

  • He's very normal. There's no reason to be sleep deprived, however... just sleep *with* him. My first didn't start sleeping through until age 2 and my second started early on (as in, 6 hours straight), but began waking again later on with teething and now wakes 2-3 times at 22 months.

    Let go of your expectations and adjust your routine so that you all get enough sleep and he will sleep longer when he is ready.

    Answer by LeanneC at 9:36 PM on Jan. 15, 2011

  • He's getting close to that 9 month growth spurt. He could also be teething or going through some major milestone developments. What kind of nap schedule does he have? When is he going to bed? If he's overtired, he won't sleep well at night.

    Answer by Journey311 at 12:01 AM on Jan. 16, 2011

  • Is he eating enough solids yet? My son started sleeping MUCH longer and better once he had heavier things in his stomach to keep him asleep. Also, what is going on in his life right now? Any recent changes/stress?

    Answer by TitusMom7 at 2:22 AM on Jan. 16, 2011

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