I hate when family is instigating. I hate living where I am at. Is it legal for family members to hold me back from becoming on my own,I have a college degree, havent gotten on my own two feet in life yet. I moved to be closer to dad in respects to my mom who past away last March but left behind a life that I didn't want to leave in the first place. I have never been given the chance to be "me" and to establish my own life, outside the control and mental, physical and verbal abuse of family. Honestly today I want to go to my dad after church, he has asked me to come over to have a talk, I want to tell him that I no longer want his financial support, he has no right to tell me how to live my life and I want to move away from here where I can breathe fresh air, they are putting me down, my dad is telling me I can't work., other family members are relaying false information, twisting and turning things to make it look like I h ave done something wrong-I hate people who lie and are two faced. They heard things about my BF that are untrue. He works for the legal system in a court room and kids/teens with drug-legal issues from in town often come to him for help and advice and he tries so very hard to help them. My ex sister in law has to go to other family members(my dad and brother) and tell them that she doesn't like my BF and that he does drugs, accusing BF's son of doing drugs and it is going on in hishouse. All a lie. It is all a prejudiced thing. (bf s black),he is a wonderful person, good to me and I love him with everything in my heart. I accept him, he is honest, he isn't the bad persn that everyone is praying him to be. I resent the fact that he is being judged harshly, my dad and brother and sister in law are out of State. My son had a rough last 3 yrs and my BF has done so much to try to help him, offering advice to me and my ex . One reason my dad moved me away from where I was at as it was told was to protect me from my son. He is now in boot camp getting help he needs. I just want strength to move away from the chains that bind me in my life(in my case, family) and life my life. Am I wrong in wanting to do this. All my life family has treated me as if I was incapable and stupid. I am tired of the way things are, I am a believer in Christ and so much want good to come of my life, my sons life and lies to stop. To me it sounds as if they are just trying to intimidate me, break us up, upset me. I want them to back off, I want to live my own life and me and BF are going to be together no matter what.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:09 AM on Jan. 16, 2011 in Relationships
I would break free. Don't make anything harder than it already is. Make a decision and stick with it. Keep the bs out of your life. The way to get change is to make change. You don't like how things are, do what you have to and change it. Also, accept the way your family is. Your not responsible for them. They are the way they are and you can't let that affect you or your life in any way. I wouldn't take the time out just yet to explain anything to anyone or even waste my breath. It doesn't sound like you'll be listened to anyways. Do what you think you should.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 6:15 AM on Jan. 16, 2011
You can break free, find a job that you can support yourself with. You said you left behind a life you were happy with, you can move back. No one has a right to be emotionally, physically or verbally abusive to you, if they do you have a right to walk away from these relationships.
You say you haven't gotten on your feet yet, but if you really want to break free from your family your going to have to find a way to support yourself. You can absolutely do this but you should develop a plan for improving your life by developing skills that will help you accomplish these goals. Good luck to you.
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