My husband and I have been having issues for a year now. Major arguing, not seeing eye to eye. There is no abuse or anything along those lines. We butt heads a lot. In the last couple years I have lost interest in sex with him, but at the same time, have no interest in even masturbating...so there is no sex drive I guess. Happened after the first baby. But when we are intimate there is no emotion for me. I'm not turned on. I don't even want to kiss him at times. He isn't stupid either and has noticed my lack of affection for him. We have currently been apart about 3/4 of the last year total, due to work. As in, he is gone for periods of time, then home again. There are also financial issues, but that's normal I would say. In the last couple months he just throws words around like, stay where you are...leave me...etc. I told him yesterday to file for divorce if he is so miserable with me. It's like we both say that, but neither wants to do it. We love one another. But sometimes I don't feel "in love" anymore. But I didn't get married and bring children into this world to get divorced. If there were major issues, like violence or drugs or something that would be different.
I'm just at a loss. I'm frustrated, depressed, confused...and I know it's only a decision I can make...not a decision a bunch of strangers can answer for me.
Is it common for a period of time after having 2 babies a year apart, for a woman to have these feelings? I have babies who don't sleep through the night....at 2 and a half and a year and a half. I'm a SAHM and do have an interview for a personal trainer job in a couple weeks, which if I get will help a lot, I'm sure. I didn't think things would be so hard on my emotions.
Asked by Anonymous at 5:01 PM on Jan. 16, 2011 in Relationships
YES .omg girl. you are my other half. i am going through the same thing. it's so hard cause you don't wanna hurt your children but then you wanna be happy again. just know, your are not alone. i hope things get better for both of you. if you ever need to vent email me anytime. sometimes its good to talk to people in your same situation
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