I really don't know what to do anymore. My one year old son and I live with my parents. I'm getting divorced and having a tough time. My mom says she dosen't mind me living here and has fun when we go do things together, eat lunch, etc.
It seems like she always is being rude to me though. She was talking about my sister-in-law watching my son half the day saturday. (I work nights and sleep until 2pm sat.) I said that it would be nice if she could watch him all day so I could have time to go do something on my own. Her response: "NO! you have to stay hom and take care of your baby like other mothers do!" I DO take care of my child the whole time I'm off work which is saturday afternoon, sunday, and monday. I don't know why she acts like I'm trying to get out of it.
Today we were eating out with my brother, sister-in-law, and their two kids. Cody, my son, started getting fussy and rubbing his eyes. I nudged her and said it's getting close to his nap time. Her response was "deal with it!"
She does this kind of thing all the time. I feel like she is always mad at me and she's trying to make me feel guilty. If I could I'd get my own place to get out of her hair. When I mention it her and my dad get mad at me for that too. They say I'm better off living here. They are probably right on that part. I'd always be in a bind for money where now I can easily take care of mine and my sons expenses.
I work part time 4 nights a week so it's difficult for me to constantly change from being awake nights to being awake days. Last saturday I was so dead tired I put Cody to bed at 8:30 instead of 9 like mom usually does. I went straight to bed after that. Then mom acted like I was lazy because of it.
These are just a few things. She also likes to dig up things in did in the past so she can complain about how "mean" I used to be. I was a normal kid with normal issues. Plus, I'm 34 now. Who cares what I did when I was 13! I don't constantly bring up stuff she did that hurt my feelings years ago.
I want to say something to her so she can realize how she is coming across to me. I'm tired of her acting like I'm not good enough. I'm tired of her trying to make me feel guilty about things that are out of my control. I think part of it might be because she gets tired and frustrated because she helps me with my son and also babysits my brothers 2 kids who are 5 and 8. I can understand that and that's why I try to be nice all the time even when she is rude. I don't know how much longer I can deal with it though. I really want to blow up sometimes.
Does anyone know what I should do about this? Anyone in a similar situation as we are? I just want to get along!
Answer by bugfin at 9:20 PM on Jan. 16, 2011
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Answer by wheresthewayout at 12:48 PM on Jan. 25, 2011
You should talk to your mother. She might not know this is how you feel. My daughter is 19 she moved back. She is pregnant. I told her I would help her. She dropped out of school. Now she is getting her GED. She want to get her driving licence before the baby is born. After the baby is born she want to get a job. I told her I would baby sit when she go to work or just need a break.
Answer by HomeAlone45 at 12:36 PM on Feb. 12, 2011
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