My ds is 3 now and I have decided to lean toward the "Unconditional Parenting" approach more and more as time goes on. The idea is throwing out the "reward and punishment" mentality and really feeding the relationship with respect and modeling.
This makes even more sense to me because my DS is a VERY willful and determined little guy, so if and when I have pulled the "NO!" kind of approach, it just creates MORE conflict. I've done MINIMAL time-outs, (1,2,3 Magic approach) but never leaving him alone for time out. At worst, its been in a chair in the living room and we worked on getting him to sit in the chair for the full 2-3 minutes. I used that to curb hitting, pushing, etc...
Otherwise, some things I have just ignored so he doesn't learn that it gets a response. At this age, most of what they do that is "naughty" is to feel powerful...and when we get mad...BOY does it work!
They are all impulse and limit pushing
at 11:40 PM on Jan. 16, 2011