I had a friend we were really close at 19 both of us live apart of our families, I think she did better than I did, she has her own house, no kids good job, single but she seems to start to sabotage herself she has been dating almost all the time married guys, she has started to tell me that she does not eat and when she does sometimes she vomits. I ask her to get help because that to me sounds like an eating disorder she says she just wants to loose weight so she can date better guys and also she read from a stupid book called wasted and she email me part of that book quote "This is one of the terribly banal truths of eating disorders: when a woman is thin in this culture, she proves her worth, in a way that no great accomplishment, no stellar career, nothing at all can match. We believe she has done what centuries of collective unconscious insist that no woman can do; control herself. A woman who can control herself is almost as good as a man. A thin woman can Have It All" She said that when we were young I was always look at by the guys because I was very skinny and she wants to know what that feels like (I was thin but not bones and skin I was strong because I used to swim and train in rescue and worked as EMT) She is not what anyone would call fat (155 lb 5 '5) now she says she will be happy when she looked the way I used to look (she thinks i was 95lbs, false at that time was 115 but im shorter than her 5'2). What rebuttal can I offer against what she quoted me that can make her understand that what she is doing is wrong? I am so far away I don't know if there is anything I can say to change her mind.
just simply be her friend. Offer advice only when she asks for it. Hang in there and try not to compare. She has to go through what she needs and the best you can do is be her friend.
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