From what i've been told my mom USED to favor me. Then came my brother and at first things were good. Then the BOOM. She and my dad got divorced after she walked in on him and her best friend. How do I know this story is true? I REMEMBER it.. I was there!!
Anyway, she blamed me for the divorce. She left me and my bother to the care of family. We bounced between my aunt and my dad and then eventually we were just with my aunt. One day my mom picks me up and there is this little girl in back seat. "Thats your sister." THATS IT!! That child was well over a year old. REALLY?!?! WTH have you been mom and how is that anyway to spring that on someone...but ok.
From the moment my brother and I went back to live with my mom I was placed beneath him and my sister. I cleaned, cooked, washed, and even did homework for them. If they were unhappy it was my fault and I got a beating. She even went so far as to put her lover ahead of me. She moved this woman and her 4 kids into out 2bed 2 bath apt. I slept on the floor in the living room while all the children had the room and she her gf had the other rm. At one point her lover became hooked on crack. Drained my mom dry...when i told her this she attempted to beat me with an inline skate. Even when this woman pawned our tv. The lady told her I did it and again, I was beaten.
My sister and brother never, and I mean never were disciplined. She literally called them her king and queen.
Anyway here we are years later. My brother has told her he flat out hates her. Has cursed her out. Called her humiliating names. My sister does worse. Just as the lady did, she drains my mom dry. She barely has enough to pay bills but my sister is handed about 200 cash every time my mom gets paid. She can do what she pleases with it. The problem is: she is failing all her classes. My mom has caught her on multiple occasions taking semi nude pics with her phone. She curses like a drunken sailor. She's lazy and when you attempt to tell her what she is doing wrong her line is, "Why bother. Mama gon give me what I want anyway."
My mom calls me and cry's, yells, whatever, about her situation. Claims she doesn't understand how it got here and what to do. I tell her what to do and does she do it? NO. She just calls me back with the same freaking sob story.
Yes ladies I am PISSED. I worked my butt off to keep this woman happy. Even when I got pregnant with my firstborn in high school. I maintained my grades. Graduated as a Texas scholar and with a scholarship. I am mad because I NEVER got to do any of the things my sister does. I didn't even get to hang out with my OWN COUSIN because she needed me to watch the kids while she went to the casino. Going to the movies with friends? Forget about it. Mom can I have a cell phone with the money I earned from MY job? No. Ladies my mom would literally walk into where I worked, cash my check, hand me 20 and I wouldn't see another dime.
But back on track... The last time I talked to my mom about my sister I stopped her mid convo. I told her that if she isn't going to do something about it then please stop telling me about it.
Am I wrong to feel so much anger about the childhood I had? Am I wrong to tell her that I don't want to here about her and my sisters problems anymore?
Answer by SweetPoison at 1:19 AM on Jan. 18, 2011
Tell her do not bottle that crap up tell her and move on. She made her bed she made this monster when she calls you say to her I am sorry you made bad choices in the past and now you have to live with the outcome of it. Tell her this every time and tell her when she does not get the hint say hey I am done with you call me when you want to know how I am doing or call me when you have some good news. Let her go it will make your life better. GL Momma
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