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Jus need her to sleep

Ok my DD is now 3 she refuses to sleep in her own rm. So we put up the toddler bed in our rm this is been happening sense she has been walking lol. Trying to get her to sleep in her bed. But its not happening. So i try to get her to sleep pick her up an put her in her bed. A few min. Later she is up an crwalung in our bed. Me an my husband doesnt know how to be together cause we have had her in our bed for 3 yrs. We been trying we even put her in her own rm. With night light. An its a hr or screaming its so bad that she is shaking from all the drama she puts herself threw. Its hard im lost dont know what to do i luv her so much but i really need mybed back. An her jus to sleep in her bed an get some rest. Ive even tried reading to her then leaving the rm it dont work. Even if i can get her to sleep by rockn her or in our bed an get her carried to her bed in30 min or hr. Or jus to lay her down she is up
an screaming or in our bed. Its a never endi g battle. Plz help wit advice. Im so exhausted?

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Asked by lilbritches501 at 2:50 PM on Jan. 17, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Try putting the toddler bed in her old spot in your room. You need to get her used to a toddler bed first, then her own room next. So my recommendation is give her a few weeks of the toddler bed in your room, then gradually move it closer to the door way. Then, when you're out of space put it in her room.

    In the mean time, try and spend lots of quality and fun time in her room so she gets used to it.


    Answer by Razelda at 2:57 PM on Jan. 17, 2011

  • Shes been in an out of that toddler bed sense she was 12mnths. Its same ol routine she falls asleep in my arms or our bed i put her in her bed. She wakes up screaming gets in our bed if i put her in her bed anyway its a scream fest till we hrs of morning. So this stuff isnt new.

    Comment by lilbritches501 (original poster) at 3:02 PM on Jan. 17, 2011

  • I agree w/ Raz! Except, what i've learned to do is keep her bed in her own room. Keep playing w/ her in her room to get her used to it, and especially at night, spend time with her in there. It's going to take a lot of work and probably some tears from you too, but you can do it!!!! you will have to put her in her bed, she will probably scream, kick and cry and come into ur room, but u have to go put her right back into her own bed, eventually she will get the hint of "oh, this is where i sleep now" ... by her sleeping in your bed, it might just hurt your relationship w/ ur SO, it put a strain on somes relationship over time, i know it did mine. i wish u all the best, goooodluck! =)

    Answer by knicole0708 at 3:04 PM on Jan. 17, 2011

  • oh and make sure she takes naps in her bed, thats in her own room! that will help with the process

    Answer by knicole0708 at 3:05 PM on Jan. 17, 2011

  • My experience when transferring my daughter to a toddler bed was to keep the bed in the relatively same area has her crib (or previous bed was) until she gets used to it. You can then gradually move it closer to a preferred location, like her room. Within two weeks, my daughter was transitioned to her toddler bed successfully at 14 months. I am sure your daughter can do the same.

    However, you simply cannot expect her to do two transitions at once. She isn't going to handle that, and it's going to stress you out. The BEST thing you can do is get her used to sleeping in the toddler bed in your room where she is already comfortable and used to sleeping then start doing the transition over.

    Answer by Razelda at 3:20 PM on Jan. 17, 2011

  • You might need to try a bit of "tough love" to solve this. Put her to bed in her own bed in her own room. Stay with her in the room until she falls asleep (to avoid the major screaming) but tell her you'll only stay if she stays in her bed. If she gets out, leave. Give her a few minutes, go back in and try again. If she wakes up at night, do the same thing. That way, she isn't screaming in her room all alone but she also isn't getting her way into your bed. You're going to need to be very consistent and patient. Try to stay very calm when in the room and don't engage in debates with her. Just remind her she's a big girl and big girls sleep in their own beds in their own rooms. Once she gets the basic idea, sit in the room for abit then leave and/or sit closer to the door each night until you're sitting in the hall. Then just give it up and just put her down and leave (or whatever routine you choose)

    Answer by momofryan07 at 7:06 PM on Jan. 17, 2011

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