My first and only daughter is 13 months old and still screams bloody murder when close friends and family she sees almost everyday try to hold her out even get too close. Me and my husband have always "rescued" her and held her when she acts this way because we don't want her to be afraid but I'm afraid we have trained her to fear everyone even though we try to treasure her that its okay. How do I fix this now? Its embarrassing and can't be good for her. And just for clarity's sake, our family (both sides) and friends aren't the slightest overbearing, loud, pushy, or anything. If anything, they are super understanding and NEVER try to reach out for her. They're educators and keep telling me she's sure to get better with time, but it's worse than I can stand. She's friendly to them from a distance, but if I or my husband leave the room, she screams in terror, looking at them (even if they're sitting across the room) and SCREAMS. Either me or my husband always have to rush back into the room to pick her up and comfort her or she'll get so upset, she'll throw up. I know this isn't normal but have no idea what to do. I had my sister babysit (super gentle soul, sees the baby every day) and we left when the baby was asleep. When the baby woke, she saw that we were gone and screamed the entire five hours we were gone, NEVER easing up at all. I'm at my wits end. The waiting for her to choose to go to people isn't resulting in any change and she's almost 14 months old now -- well past the "fear stage" that our pediatrician told us about.
Any help you can offer would be greatly appreciated!!!
Answer by micheledo at 9:11 PM on Jan. 17, 2011
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:49 PM on Jan. 17, 2011
Answer by Shelii at 8:57 PM on Jan. 17, 2011
Answer by micheledo at 9:14 PM on Jan. 17, 2011
Answer by maggiemom2000 at 11:02 PM on Jan. 17, 2011