I have 7 week old twin girls that are normally extremely happy babies. But after feedings sometimes (most of the time) we need to hold them until they're completely asleep or we can't put them down without lots of crying.
I know nothing's wrong with them. They are fed, burped, changed, right temperature. They're starting to fight sleep I think.
Of course my first instinct is to pick them up and cuddle them until they're happy again. My mom says that they're fighting sleep and by us holding them until they're all the way under that we're spoiling them and letting them 'train' us not to be able to put them down normally later.
Is this true? How old should babies be before it's ok to let them cry it out since I know they're ok? What To Expect the First Year says that for the entire first 6 months to pick them up whenever they cry so they can learn to trust me that I'll be there and take care of them when they need something.
So, how old can they cry to soothe without help from me? Are we spoiling them? If so, what do we do?
Answer by SimplyErathy at 2:44 AM on Jan. 18, 2011
Answer by alexia_09 at 5:41 AM on Jan. 18, 2011
We always found it worked best for us to get into a sleep time routine that was always the same. Bath, diaper change, perhaps swaddling, lights out, drapes pulled, soft music on or singing, cuddling/rocking/swaying. When the baby got drowsy he was laid down. If done in the same manner, all the time, the baby picks up on the cues and knows it's time for sleeping. The lady I do childcare for has also asked me to follow a set routine with her baby. If the baby cries at all it isn't for long. And I don't mean screaming his lungs out, but minor fussing. This is what worked for us. Our kids were good sleepers and happy babies. Good luck!!
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