DH has a co-worker..married w/4 kids under10. No car, DH takes him to and fro...for which he doesn't seem greatful(I guess that is not why he takes him but still) anyway, wife is hooked on pills. They are on assistance and sell their foodstamps for cash. On the first of this month they had close to 1,000 in foodstamps, and by the end of the day they had spent about 200 on themselves and sold the rest off at 50 cents on the dollar. They borrow money from us all the time and ask us if they can have it and pay interest on it. We have given before, but we are not made of money and it is becoming a monthly thing.
Ok, to the point..last night DH gets a text from the Mrs. asking to borrow 100 bucks and said she would pay it back in a week and a half at 120% interest. She said she was not proud,she had no groceries in the house etc. This is where I got in the mix. I text her, that we did not have cash, but if she had hungry kids, I could bring her some groceries to tide her over, and asked what she needed...thinking the basics, bread, milk, eggs blah blah. She text back a looong list. I was speachless! Pop, chips, lunch meat, cereal, snacks, stuff for dinners...the list went on. Now, my DH is so fed up, he told me I was not to take them anything as this is a cycle they will never break. My mothers heart however thinks of the kids...can't help it their parents are dumb asses! I have 5 of my own and would die before I let them go hungry. I was going to just drop off some milk, bread, cereal, bananas etc...and take the heat from DH...what should I do? I know they won't change, but does this change the fact that innocent kids will go hungry...of btw, dad has smokes every day at work...it is a mess....I just don't know what to do...if I am not part of the solution am I not part of the problem? OR am I just enabling them?
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