It would depend on why he called her that, for me. If it was just them picking on each other in a normal sibling kind of way, I probably wouldn't think much of it unless it really hurt her feelings. If that was the case, I would probably sit him down and tell him that I know he may use profanity and the like, but name calling can still be hurtful and he needs to be more respectful of his sister, even if they don't get along all the time or like each other all the time. If he kept doing it, I would start taking away privileges. If he did it because she did something to him, I wouldn't punish him at all for it, but she might get in trouble (again, depending on exact circumstances). If he just did it out of the blue for no reason, then we would have the respect conversation and if it persisted, he would lose privileges. I'm not really strict about profanity usage, though, just so long as it doesn't get too out of hand.
at 6:07 PM on Jan. 18, 2011