I met someone on E-Harmony about 3 weeks ago. I had never done anything like that before and was not expecting to meet a man that I just "click" with. We have so much in common its scary. We live 5 min away from each other. We met in person 1 week ago and have spent 4 days together since. I would really appreciate any advice/opinions about this please. Also,he is 39 and I am 35.
The first date that we met face-to-face was at a very nice restaurant for lunch. We stayed for about 2 hrs,the conversation seemed to just flow,I cant explain it.The downside to this date was that during our lunch his cell phone rang at least 3 times,he answered and talked to all 3 callers. Later that evening he called and I told him that I thought it was disrespectful to continually answer the phone while on a first date. He has been great at not doing that since.
Last night,we are watching a movie at his home(weve kissed no more than twice,nothing more) and his cell phone began ringing,it was almost 10:30 p.m he did not answer the phone. I had been there anout an hour at the time,and began to feel uneasy because I felt that it wasnt business related at that time and that he didnt want to answer it for another reason. Shortly afterwards I told him I had to go and within 5 min he texted saying what was wrong. I responded that It was late for business calls and that he should have taken the call. He responded that it was his daughter and that he cant win with me,if he does or does not answer the phone. Text messages went back and forth with me all but saying that I didnt believe thats who was calling.
He responded with"I have some issues that I need to work on before any decent man would want to be with me,and that he deserves better." I texted back that he would regret his selection of poor choice.He then said not to text again b/c he would just delete them without reading them. That was very hurtful to me to hear him speak to me that way,its like I had really never known him at all. So,I would just like to get some input of others and like to see if I handled this the complete wrong way,even though I feel like what he said was totally disrespectful.Thank you.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:49 AM on Jan. 19, 2011 in Relationships
Well you did pull the jealousy and accusation card a little early. I wouldn't say that you need help, just don't pull that card so soon lol.
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