My sons father lives in NC, we live in MD, he has no contact with my son, but I receive child support every 2 wks (court ordered). He is 5 now and has started asking questions, like "do I have a father?" I told him yes, everyone has a father, he then said "well where is he?" I told him in North Carolina...he then said "well why doesn't he see me, he didn't want me in his family or something?" My herat broke but I tried to explain that everyone, man/woman has a choice and he has chosen not to do what is right and be a good dad. My instinct was to call him and tell him what is he going to do ....my friends all tell me him not being involved is a "blessing in disguise". But how do I see the blessing when my son is feeling rejected?Answer Question
I understand your frustration and heartbreak. It's only good if you want it to be and obviously it's not a blessing to you when your child is responding like this. Have you tried calling his dad and talking to him about this?
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I agree with your friends. If he was any type of positive role model for your son he would have been a part of his life by now. I'm sure it will be hard for your son to understand and hopefully some day he will have the chance to have a conversation with his father about it. Is there any other men in your son's life that he can spend time with- an uncle or a friend?? If you make contact with the dad you have to be prepared to share custody as well having him involved in making decisions. I'd take some time to really think about it and weigh out the pros and cons before you make a decision.
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