I am one of the many parents that has allowed my child to sleep on and off with me since birth. Over the past couple of years, I have been working on getting him to sleep in his own room and it continues to be a struggle. I have done all of the stuff that you would think would help, new room, new bedding, new toys, money, etc. He wants me. He started sleeping in his room for about 2 months and then it happened again. Many nights it turns into an argument or screaming match. I am so worried. He always wants me to make sure I promise that I come back in and check on him, which I do, but doesn't seem to be good enough. Last night was the first time that he said some things that really got me concerned. We re-did his room and made it really cool. He likes it a lot. We made a promise to each other that if I slept with him the first night, he would (pinky swear) sleep the next night on his own. Welllllll......that didn't happen.
So we let him go down to a spare bedroom that I sometimes use when my husband is doing to whole snoring thing. He likes this because it is closer to me. When I told him that I wasn't sleeping with him he started crying and losing it. I reassured him, calmly talked to him, but it still didn't work. About an hour later, I of course, got mad. I yelled at him and told him to go to sleep. He started screaming back that he was an "awful child, and that he didn't listen to us and that he was the worst kid in the world". "Why would we want him since he is so bad". He then continued on about how he was bad for not listening and that he should get into trouble, etc. WHAT!! He kept saying this for about 15 minutes. I calmly talked to him and got him settled down, but why would a child of this age think this?
I have never heard this from anyone that I know and especially from a little boy who has a heart of gold. He is so loving, so sweet, always wants to please anyone. We hardly ever have to raise our voices to him. I am very, very, worried. I don't want this to be traumatic on him now or when he gets older.
BUT ......he can spend the night with friends and not have a problem. He goes to school or places with other people than me all the time. It is just the bedtime ritual when he is at home. He cannot go to sleep without me or sometimes without his father.
PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
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