my daughter and i use to be best friends and i raised her not to be materialistic .She is married to a vain man who i have always treated as family who once was happy that we were best of friends .There was a falling out and she did not see me for like three months of course she was drinking when this accord .Her husband does not like my boyfriend .Things kinda got a bandaide put on them .Like 8 months ago my sister passed away and my daughter decided that would be a good time to be mad at me because i did not go to my step grandsons birthday party and i have never missed one .I was sad and had anxiety.Her in laws are excused if they do not make it .I still feel very uncomfortable when she is around because i am not allowed to share my feelings about how i feel so i find myself digging in the closet for things to talk about that are acceptable to her .After she leaves i find my self crying because im so sad about were our realationship is .She seems to live in a perfect world .But we all know better then that .I find it much easier if i dont see her at all and this is alful i love her so much and it breaks my heart to feel this way .Everything in her life is how beautiful she is ; the cloths the makeup the gym and look at all the guys looking at me .Sje always has to look her best its the only way her husband notices her .He says stuff to his friends my wife is so hot she can dance flirt with other guys he told her once he would come watch if she wanted to be a stripper .Help were is my sweet daughter i raised who cared about others who are not perfect .Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:03 PM on Jan. 19, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by tootoobusy at 8:08 PM on Jan. 19, 2011
Answer by ItsMe89 at 8:21 PM on Jan. 19, 2011
Answer by twinsplus2more at 8:53 PM on Jan. 19, 2011
A daughter is not supposed to be a best friend, maybe like a best friend, but with certain limits. You need to get friends your own age and let her do her own thing. You need to be there when she needs you, but don't ever expect a 20-something to be there for you. I personally think you should have sucked it up and gone to the birthday party. What better way to get yourself out of a funk! Maybe the fact that you were so low is an indication that yes, you are depressed and need to seek out some help. Back to the limits though, your daughter should not be telling you anything about her sex life including whatever comment her husband said about being a stripper. If you establish those limits after accepting the fact that you are NOT best friends and you both seek out your own best friends you will be happier.
Answer by LoveMyDog at 2:13 PM on Jan. 24, 2011
Answer by JackieGirl007 at 7:58 AM on Jan. 25, 2011
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