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Why is it that a good man is the one that is getting hurt by a woman that dosent know how to treat a good man

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Asked by tinamarie1972 at 5:22 AM on Jan. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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  • frown minigood question ...! a few months ago i had a failed relationship, he was hurt by a lot of women in his past and he didn't trust women because of his history and bad luck with them;;; he then ended up taking out his trust issues on me so that destroyed our relationship. how sad... it sucks for both of us but he admits taking out his past relationship issues on us and now he regrets it.. it is too damaged at this point . i will not get back with him ever!!! it is too late now, he took it too far it's over now. we will always care for each other though.....


    Answer by gwen20 at 5:38 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • BE careful how you say good man. Men are all wrapped into the same philosophy, and when one man goes down, they all try to act as though they all deserve to be all knowing about it. Women are just the sideline. We are never silent enough. Like once a week if we are in a bad mood for years of not being in any bad mood things will be blamed on the woman even with the nicest of men. Men posts are on here from every cafe'momer. We don't know how not to be caring so when / or if we don't care just like another catty female she'll come along and spread her manure thick to look as if she cares more than the wife/ girlfriend.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:39 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • Maybe a woman has been hurt so bad in previous relationships, she keeps her heart protected. Sometimes she is called selfish and mean but it would be hard to let someone in. It is hard for someone treated badly, to let go and be loved. They are distrustful but still want to be involved with someone. Don't we all want someone to love us? Also a good man or woman sees the good in someone in spite of the way they are treated.

    Answer by Autumn07 at 8:14 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • good men are always getting hurt, in fact i dont ever think i have seen any good post on here about good men all i hear about is how they are all dead beats and sperm donors when in fact we dont even know the full story of what really happened in that relationship where the woman is calling her Baby's Dad that. we just hear her side which is bias cause it is one sided. I think we need to realize that men and woman alike are evil and nasty and some men and women are good and sweet.

    Answer by mrssundin at 8:15 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • goes both ways
    when one person is toxic, a user or abuser, that person tends to pick someone who is nuturing
    just how it goes
    would not work if both were users, no one would be able to use the other
    one has to be very nuturing nature, that person is taken for granted, than blamed for everything etc

    it is like in James Redfields book, Celestine Prophecy. some people are energy stealers (toxic or abusive)

    have to learn how not to give your energy away to this kind of person, and a nuturing person gives so much, it is easier to steal theirs

    Answer by fiatpax at 8:33 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • oh give me a break. He knows what she's doing and he stays. He's a big boy. He can leave and be treated better but he stays. nuff said

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:51 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

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