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Is it fair? (more inside)

My friend and I were talking about this and it's just messed up but if a woman tricks a guy into thinking she's on birth control, or even being so shady as to pop holes in the condoms and ending up pregnant, should that guy be responsible for child support? How could he prove he was screwed over by that woman? Is it fair for him?

 
Nanixh

Asked by Nanixh at 11:10 AM on Jan. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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Answers (21)
  • i think that if a man really doesnt want a kid he should bring his own condoms, hell buy a new box each time and not let it out of his sight until the deed is done. but too often men think with their "little heads" and not their big ones :p
    pookipoo

    Answer by pookipoo at 11:24 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • I've never understood why a guy who doesn't want children would have sex without a condom regardless of what a woman says about being on birth control. It's wrong to lie to a man like that but yes he should have to pay child support. Only a total loser would try to say he was tricked and should not have to help support his own child. Even if she poked holes in teh condom, he should still have to help support his child. And thereafter he should keep a better eye on his condoms or change the type of woman he dates.
    wildflowers25

    Answer by wildflowers25 at 11:23 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • It's not fair for a woman to trick a guy like that, but is it fair that he should pay child support? Yes. It's not the child's fault. If he's having sex with the woman, then he knows there's always a risk. If he doesn't want to support a child then then the only safe way to prevent that is to keep it in his pants.
    charlottej

    Answer by charlottej at 11:15 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • I think its not fair, and any woman that thost anything like that is sick, but if you end up having a child he should pay
    NewForMe

    Answer by NewForMe at 11:18 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • probably not "fair" but even with birth control it is not 100%. The bottom line is that if you have sex with someone and a child is the result (no matter how it happened) both ARE the parents and have to be responsible for that child.
    sue118

    Answer by sue118 at 11:20 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • Men should never use a condom a woman has given them they should always bring their own. He should assume she isn't on the pill and make sure he protects himself. I do think if a woman has an out (abortion and adoption) a man should have one as well. I feel for the kids but they are better off not around parents who don't want them.

    Personally, I think men and women shouldn't be sleeping around with anyone they wouldn't want to be parents with and should accept and love the children they make. That isn't going to happen many adults are very selfish and self absorbed so there should be an out so the kids isn't stuck with people who won't love them.
    FricknFrack

    Answer by FricknFrack at 11:23 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • A biological child is a biological child. He is responsible for that child regardless of the method in which they were concieved. He can fight in court to get himself out of paying child support if he wanted to try. But aside from signing away his rights he is obligated to support that child.
    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 11:23 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • There is no way to prove it, women can get pregnant on BC. If he doesn't want to be daddy then he shouldn't be having sex at all.
    mommy_of_two388

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 11:25 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • when you have sex, there could be consequences...soooo if you are mature enough to make the decision and are responsible enough to have sex (even if you arent responsible, youre obviously "responsible" enough to have sex) then you should be ready to be responsible for something that could happen. malicious chick poking holes or "on birth control" or not.
    JT32606

    Answer by JT32606 at 11:40 AM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • Fairness isn't the issue. BOTH people should have the brains to realize that if you have sex, a pregnancy could result, even if you use protection. If you aren't ready to be a parent, don't have sex. It's not rocket science.
    Bethsunshine

    Answer by Bethsunshine at 11:43 AM on Jan. 20, 2011