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How old is old enough to date?

I have a 13 year old son and he has asked to start going on group dates (movies, mall, game park, skating, etc.) I don't know,, I feel he is still a little immature and don't want him to get serious, on the other hand I know in middle school they are calling eachother boyfriend/girlfriend...but they break up or whatever every other week!

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Asked by 2boyz2pray4 at 12:03 PM on Jan. 20, 2011 in Teens (13-17)

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  • I think if they are going on group dates and hanging out it is just fine, I have a 14 year old son and he hangs with a group of kids, mixed boy and girl. They do call each other boyfriend/girlfriend although not all of them do and I think it is great for them to hang out.

    He is not allowed to go on a date just him and a girl, it has to be a group thing.

    Good Luck!

    Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 12:05 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • Dating is for the purpose of selecting a lifetime marriage partner. So the answer is that when your son is mature enough to be a husband and a father, he will be old enough to date. That is not to say that he cannot have friends who are girls, but I believe the best environment for those friendships is within the home. Our children were free to invite their friends of either sex to our home with our pre-approval and to entertain them here, which they did. Our children married at the ages of 24, 31, and 27. There was no pre-marital sex and none of the drama about which I read. All three are very happily married, and if I had the chance to do it over, I would do it the exact same way.

    Answer by NannyB. at 12:07 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • At 13 group dates are great.

    Answer by gammie at 12:08 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • group dates are the way to go for this age.

    Answer by deesam at 12:10 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • I would say 15 would be old enough to go group dates. Then 17 for one on one dates with a reasonable curfew.

    Answer by soon2bmmy at 12:11 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • I think group dates at 13 are fine. I'm going to wait until my kids are 16 before they can go on "alone" dates.

    Answer by Scuba at 12:11 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • 16.

    Answer by misses_nick at 12:17 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • guys are strict. I went on my first date at 11yo, with a very nice young man from school. He took me to the local theatre to watch Space Jam. We held hands. That was it. Afterwards, he gave me a little peck on the cheek when his parents dropped me off at home. Just to let you guys know, I was 20 before I became sexually active. I went on several dates, spent plenty of evenings at boyfriends houses eating dinner, watching tv, just hanging out, but my "mama didn't raise no fool."

    Answer by BisketLiss at 12:22 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • My point being...that it all depends on the child and their maturity level.

    Answer by BisketLiss at 12:24 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • 13, to young.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 1:04 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

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