I have been with my husband for 9 years and when we got together he had a 3 year old daughter who he was raising by himself. Her biological mother has been out of the picture completely and I have raised my step daughter as my own since my husband and I got together. Since then my husband and I have had 2 children together. I have always asked my family to treat all of the children the same. My family has done GREAT with this and outside looking in you would think that my family really feels that my step daughter is a blood relative.
Now my mother-in-law on the other hand treats my step-daughter and my 2 children completely different. Even though all of the children are my husbands she obviously feels that the two he birthed with me are different. My two daughters never get birthday gifts, cards, or even calls, but my step daughter gets mounds and mounds of gifts. For Christmas my step daughter got 15 presents and my children got 4 presents a piece and 2 of them they can't even use until they are an adult. The gifts really didn't bother me until my 4 year old started to notice that her NaNa got her sister all these presents and she didn't get near as many. She didn't seem upset by it but she noticed it and it broke my heart that one day she is going to understand completely and not understand why her grandmother doesn't treat her the same. Now my youngest doesn't understand or care yet and hopefully this problem will be resolved before she gets old enough.
My husband says that he has talked to his mother about treating all the girls fairly but each holiday or birthday rolls around and its still the same. When do I say enough is enough and discuss this with her myself?
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