I have been married 5 years and alot of ups and downs have gone on. I love him dearly and know he loves me. That isn't the problem. The problem is that I feel like we aren't growing as a couple. I think that I know him so well all the little things about him and how he is. But it seems like he doesn't know me that well. It's like he can't ever just know what I need or now how things may affect me and then know how to handle it. I am not sure if I am explaining this right but does anyone feel like their spouse should be more "in tune" with them than they are?? or has anyone ever felt this way and been able to work on it so they felt closer to their spouse?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:08 PM on Jan. 20, 2011 in Relationships
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I can and only will speak in regards to my husband/myself/my marriage.
I have been married for 25 years. One thing I have learned about my husband throughout all of those years is this. He can not just "know" what I need/want/feel etc just by looking at me. He's not a mind reader. No more than I am. Yes he is in tune with me in many ways. However, that is not something that's ever going to happen, because he can't look at my ass and read my mind. lol. The only way my husband really and truly KNOWS what I need/want/feel etc is if I tell him. If I do not tell him these things, If I'm not honest about those things with him, and I just leave him floundering and guessing in the dark.it opens up the possibility for some real communication issues,which in turn become hurt feelings and resentments.If I want my feelings/needs known I must be responsible for making them known.
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