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It has been 4yrs since my bf baby died at d age of 6mon. Lately she has becomen2 dis mean girl who is always cleanin and fusses wth ery1. She cant keep a man and when we tell her she is crazy and needs help she laughs it off n later cries. She doesnt cry when she talks about him but now im wondern if his death is d reason y she is so crazy. she stressn me n others out... Help???

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Asked by starrneil at 5:34 PM on Jan. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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  • I'm sorry.... I cant understand the question.

    Answer by kiansmom0423 at 5:36 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • Of course it is. As a friend you are only making things worse instead of supporting her. Why would you call her crazy? Id be there for her and if her attitude is to much to handle then give her her space. She needs counseling and mayb you can be the one to push her in that direction. Poor Girl :( GL

    Answer by Steph319 at 5:37 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • try to get her counseling. there are people that love her right? try organizing an intervention. get everyone together to tell her they love her and how her behavior is hurting her and the ppl that love her and offer to get her help

    Answer by momofone725 at 5:38 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • Crazy is a RUDE word to speak of a mother who lost her child of any age. you should try supporting her, instead of calling her crazy. I agree with PP, she needs counseling and good set of friends to help her deal and get by. She may never fully heal....

    Answer by knicole0708 at 5:40 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • we dont call her crazy n a bad way bc we all love her and is here for her but she do crazy things like burst in your room, cum to ur house and tell u how to live and who shuldnt be there, and tells ur man what to do and not to do when she doesnt has one. she doesnt think she needs help so none of this is about d baby... we r not rude, she

    Comment by starrneil (original poster) at 5:45 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • This is most likely because of the baby. PPL change after a loss, especially the loss of a child. Just becuase she isnt directly saying that its not about the baby does not give you the right to assume that it is.

    Answer by Steph319 at 5:48 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • And Im not saying that its right to be "mean". But talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Dont talk about her behind her back when you dont have the facts. Im not trying to be mean but you need to be a little sensitive and if you love her then do your best to be there for her. All differences aside

    Answer by Steph319 at 5:50 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • assume that it is.

    assume that its not*

    Answer by Steph319 at 5:51 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • im sorry to hear that about your friend i hope she is ok & gets better

    Answer by Ricanmami1 at 6:00 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • i would probably check myself into a nut-house if that happened to me.

    she needs love and support from those close to her. grief counseling among other things. i hope she is able to overcome this.

    Answer by tnm786 at 6:00 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

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