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Obsessive Thoughts

of your cheating husband with no solid proof! What do you do?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:48 PM on Jan. 20, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Free him.

    Your obsessive thoughts have convinced you that thinking is a way of changing the world... and in a way, it's true, just not at all the way you think.

    Your thoughts can change the world for you... bring you peace, happiness, contentment, joy. Not by controlling other people or what they do, but by freeing them to do what they will. Free yourself, too.

    Do what you want. Do whatever you do with real love, appreciation, helpfulness, kindness, generosity, curiosity, courage, hope... because what you're 'doing' now is making yourself insane, and quite possibly not only attracting very poor choices in me, but also in pushing them away once you have them.

    I recommend ... Byron Katie's method.

    Answer by LindaClement at 8:55 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • confront him. if you really have no solid proof, then he might not be cheating. when you're in that mindset, your mind is going to tell you what you want to believe. so you'll find reasons to convince yourself he is- when it could be something totally different and unrelated. i was once convinced an ex was cheating, so i finally went through his phone, email, and everything- not only did i not find anything, but i felt so stupid for not believing him. turns out it truly was just late nights at work!

    Answer by lexi8622 at 9:16 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • Have you looked for proof?

    Answer by sarchasmicangel at 10:02 PM on Jan. 20, 2011

  • You have to let him go, you're not doing yourself any good by obsessing over things. It will drive you crazy. Don't let it get to you.

    Answer by amessageofhope at 12:49 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

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