I was once married to a mean man, he was controlling and just treated me badly. Of course he wasnt like that until AFTER we got married. When I got pregnant with my second baby, he abonded us.... I moved in with my parents until we got on our feet and actually found out that he had moved to another state, and had gotten in a fight with another guy at a bar and was killed.
That was 3 years ago , and honestly I have had a great life since then . I am only 23 but I have my own buisness that lets me stay home and take care of my kids ( and I have a very good income), we have a new house and I have 2 vehicles... I also have alot of self confidence now ( before I had none at all ) ...
Last year I met a guy who turned out to be Prince Charming, perfect in every way ... he treats me amazing, he treats my kids amazing ... he is just wonderful !
I fell like I have a good sense of people now, I feel like I have learned from my past ... but I also think that is holding me back.
My boyfriend wants to move farther with our relationship, he wants to get married, he wants to live together , he wants to be a father to my kids ( he already acts like he is, he is even my daughters t-ball coach ) .
But a part of me is making myself hold back... It sounds great and exciting for him to actually live with us ( he stays everynight anyways) , and to get married and also the kids and I will not have to have the last name of my ex husband anymore either...
I am just afriad that as soon as we get married he will change... Right now he lets me be how I am , lets me do as I please, and treats me how I should be treated. He is my best friend and my love and I honestly cannot see life without him and I think that up until this point I just assumed that we would just stay how we are - "dating forever"..
He isnt pressuring me to make a desicion and I can understand his need to know and him wanting to make our future more "known" ... but I just do not know how to get over this fear that he will change as soon as we get married ... that is the only thing keeping me from our future...
Asked by Anonymous at 11:59 PM on Jan. 20, 2011 in Relationships
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