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If you don't want non-family children at your wedding how do you POLITELY tell people or put it in the invitation?

The place we're having the wedding is exactly children friendly plus I will have to pay 30 dollars extra per child that shows up. We would REALLY like to keep it adult only other than the children in our family.

How can I politely tell people their small children are not invited?

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:04 AM on Jan. 21, 2011 in Home & Garden

Answers (15)
  • You say... this an adult function, please make other arrangements for children under age..

    Answer by MillyPontipee at 2:07 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • You are going to have to be really careful with this one: if you say 'no kids' and the people who went to great lengths to put their kids somewhere else find themselves among a bunch of kids, you're going to have some big, angry ex-friends.

    Invite the people who want to have at your wedding. Do not invite people you do not want at your wedding. If you don't want *specific* kids, don't invite them. If you want NO kids, make sure none of your relatives present are under 19, either.

    When we sent out our invitations, we counted children as 'people invited' and did not spend any time at all saying 'under-height' or 'under-age'... we didn't even sort them based on their IQ. We invited the people we wanted to share our day with... since I think weddings are community events, and I happen to like children and don't think they're subhuman, paying $30 for them is no different to me than paying for anyone else.

    Answer by LindaClement at 2:18 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • You can say "We would love to have the honor of your company at our wedding. Unfortunately, we are unable to accommodate any children who are not part of the wedding party, so we ask that parents arrange for child care."

    Also, if it's something that your budget can handle, you could consider maybe hiring a few sitters for the kids and having them somewhere (depending on the number of kids we're talking about, at your house, or at a hotel room or community room near the event, etc.) Then you could say the above, only change the second sentence to say "Since this is an adult only event, babysitting will be provided from __ time to ___ at ___ location, for any guests who do not wish to make their own childcare arrangements."

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 2:22 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • I like sailorwifes idea, but then again we had a bounce house at our reception for the kids.

    Answer by mslksdh at 2:45 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • Linda...

    We love children (have 2 and want 6) and DO NOT consider them subhuman but we do not want to have 25 children under 5 running around everywhere and as I stated above this is NOT a very child friendly venue. And our budget simply cannot handle 25 x 30!

    All of the family children we are having there are in the wedding party so not having any children isn't an option. We also don't mind children 12 and over there. It's the children under that age, particularly the 5 and under age group I'm concerned about.

    Everyone else...thanks.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 2:55 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • sailorwifenmom's response is great! Remember too that those invited should be specified on the inner envelop of the invitation. List exactly who is included.

    Answer by elizabr at 6:24 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • ive been invited to an "adult only" wedding and it was not a problem. you might want to add "due to facilities restriction" and blame it on them. do you have many out of town people attending though? if so you might want to hire a few girls to babysit at a certain location. some people cannot make long term child care arrangements.

    Answer by lillie70 at 9:25 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • On the invitation, specify ADULT reception.

    Answer by TARARENEE at 9:57 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • You make your entire wedding adult only.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 11:58 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

  • Offer babysitting somewhere near for those that cannot arrange for their children to be elsewhere.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 11:59 AM on Jan. 21, 2011

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