I am a 56 year old mother, married for 35 years, with twin grown sons, they always seem to need things. One lives with the mother of one of his kids he has 3 kids and struggles financially and I keep giving money with their constant requests and babysitting which takes up most of my time as they can't afford babysitters, they really do need the help financially but it is hard to keep helping them.
The other twin is living at home now and keeps moving back home, he is now working full time again, was downsized at previous job and working towards moving out, but he has a drinking problem which does not affect his job as he only drinks on off days, but he causes stress in the house when he drinks.
I love my sons but I am at wits end and totally stressed and with them, mentally and financially. I have systemic lupus and the stress of it all is starting to aggravate my illness. I can't seem to stop helping them and I feel sorry for their situations and feel if I don't help or keep allowing the one to come home something bad may happen to them and then I will really feel bad, I worry about them all the time.
My husband is also at wits ends, and has been threatening to put the son living at home out of the house with no place else to go at this point.
Help, anyone have thoughts to share or words of wisdom? All and any comments are encouraged. Thanks a Bunch.
Answer by mamahartt at 12:54 PM on Jan. 22, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 AM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by mistynights234 at 6:48 AM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by twinsplus2more at 12:23 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by remomingit at 10:14 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by lillie70 at 9:19 AM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by clarasusana at 2:00 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Main thing .You need to take care of your self. If you don"t look out for your self no one else will. Your son that lives with mom and dad needs to try a little harder. Your life does not have a swinging door attached. Stay or go but you make a responsible final decision.
Answer by Linda702 at 6:41 PM on Jan. 21, 2011
Answer by mcarlson94 at 2:11 AM on Jan. 22, 2011