every time my husband looks at other woman or talks to another woman i'm thinking in my head "he likes her" and i get all paranoid that hes going to go cheat..even when we watching tv and pretty girls come out i get all insecure and jealous i think i'm getting hem frustrated and tired of the same thing but i don't no what to do..this started when he completely broke our trust with things he did in the pass and since then i become a different person i wasn't like this before..maybe because i'm young (21) and very insecure about myself with very low-stem and not mature enough i guess... plz any advise it would really help thanksAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:07 AM on Jan. 21, 2011 in Relationships
I have felt these exact same things for years! Okay, lets start with what your husband did to break your trust. If you didn't start having these thoughts and feelings until after he broke that trust, then in my opinion you need to deal with what happened. Dealing with it and moving on are 2 different things. Deal with the feelings that go a long with having your trust broken. As far as him getting frustrated, too bad. These are the consequences when you break someones trust. Should he have to pay for it forever? No. What I did was have a sit down with my hub and I told him that it angered me when he looked or talked to other women and yes, I too got pissed off if he was looking at a chick on television. All of these things stem from something else.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 6:19 AM on Jan. 21, 2011
What we did is out of respect for my feelings, we monitored what we watched on television. We had a code word if a chick came onscreen and I got upset. He'd change the channel. He didn't look at other females, only spoke if it was neccessary. After awhile of me being completely honest with him and him basically putting me in a "cocoon", I stopped feeling this way. I can't really explain the change. It just happened. All of a sudden he could leave the house without me freaking out. We didn't have to monitor what we watched on television so closely. Now, it's a thing of the past.
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